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The Crazy Cycle


There is a great book called “Love and Respect” by Dr.Emerson Eggerichs. It talks about the need that people have for love and respect. The book specifically deals with men’s need for respect and women’s need for love.  It’s a great book if you want to check it out, but that’s not why I’m writing this. I want to discuss something he mentions though, called the “Crazy Cycle.” You see, I’m pretty sure all of humanity, especially in this country, are all stuck in a crazy cycle with each other.
In the Crazy Cycle, someone reacts without love (or respect) and then the other person feels unloved (or disrespected) so they react without respect (or love) and then the cycle continues on and on and on.  Lack of love breeds disrespect which breeds lack of love and so on. The ONLY way to stop the Crazy Cycle is to actually have someone make the conscious decision to react in love or respect even when they feel like their needs of love or respect are not being met.  What a difficult thing… to love someone even when you feel disrespected or to respect someone even when you feel unloved. 
It hit me the other day that almost every group of people into which people separate themselves, are in the Crazy Cycle with other groups of people.  I thought of gender, sexuality, morality, political parties & issues, race, religion, age… you name it.  If it somehow divides us into groups, we have found ways to get into the Crazy Cycle. There are huge groups of people, some in a certain race, some of a certain gender, some of a certain political bent, who feel disrespected and unloved.  Those people then react in disrespect and lack of love because of how they were made to feel and the cycle continues.
The ONLY way to stop it, people, is to choose to be the one who reacts in love and respect.  EVEN WHEN, let me say it again, EVEN WHEN you feel disrespected and unloved.  It is one of the most difficult things in the world to do, but if you are so bold to try it, it could change society as we know it. Choose to be the one.  It isn’t easy.  That’s why the random few stories and examples go viral on social media.  It makes us all smile that someone could have that kind of self-control and restraint and love, but how many of us actually make a point to be that person.  Choose to stop the Crazy Cycle and choose to love and respect others, even ones who aren’t like you, even ones who aren’t loving or respecting you first.

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